LesbiHonest: A Single Story

When outsiders look at lesbians they think that they have to take the mold of a typical relationship, meaning one person has masculine qualities while the other has feminine qualities. This idea works in a relationship with a man and a women, but not always in same sex relationships. Lesbians that are looked upon as less attractive or more manly tend to be called "butch" and assume the more manly roles (i.e, car maintenance or building things). Then the more feminine in the relationship functions just like a women would be expected to in any other relationship.

Another one story idea about lesbians, or homosexuals in general, is that they are constantly trying to force their beliefs upon other people and by doing so they hope to convert more people to homosexuality. This idea comes from the vocal minority, homosexuals do want to have the same rights as other couples, but not every gay and lesbian couple is out marching each weekend for gay rights. Most couples go about their lives in normal ways, in an effort to show that they are normal people who don't act any differently then other couples. People look at the vocal minority and expect all other individuals in this group to act the same way.

People look at lesbians as people who can function in a normal family unit. Sure the idea is unconventional, but is it really wrong for two people who love a child to help raise that child? Would it be better if that child was raised by a single parent? I really have a hard time thinking that a child who grows up with parents in a homosexual relationship would turn out any different than a child in a single parent household. As a father, raising children isn't easy and having a second person there to help always makes the job easier. Saying that gay or lesbian parents are unfit seems limiting to me. I don't see how they would be any different from other household types.

The last part of a lesbian story is their appearance. I already talked about the idea of a "butch" lesbian, and now I want to talk about the idea of attractive lesbians. If society sees two lesbian couples walking down the street, the first couple is two women who are very attractive, the other is a couple who may not be conventionally attractive, society will say the less attractive couple are lesbians and the other couple were girl friends just hanging out. Society may say that the less attractive women have no other choice but to be with another less attractive women, where as an attractive women has made the choice to be lesbian. Also, society is more tolerant of attractive lesbian couples because they feel that its ok or even acceptable because there may be a desirability factor of two attractive women being together. For the unattractive couple they have a harder time gaining acceptance, because they don't fit with conventional thinking of lesbian couples. 

The view of lesbians in today's society are that they are angry, ugly and bitter women who are trying to change the world, and convert more and more women to their beliefs. In my experience, this is incorrect. Lesbians are some of the nicest people I have had the chance to meet, no matter their looks or beliefs. If society took the chance to step back and look at others not in the vocal majority, they would find parents who care, couples who love each other and relationships that function just like any other couple. 

Lesbian families are a bad environment:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/11/dennis-baxley-florida_n_4086108.html?utm_hp_ref=lesbian

Lesbians are just angry:

http://stopannoyingme.wordpress.com/2008/11/05/hey-lesbians-why-are-you-so-angry/